You often hear people talking about seeking or getting custody of the children. This makes it sound as though custody is a win or lose game: one parent gets custody and the other doesn’t. The parent with it is the ‘real’ parent and the other parent is just a visitor or a babysitter. This does not accurately reflect family law in Ontario.
The decision to separate may be the hardest you ever make. Once you tell your spouse you want to separate or once your spouse breaks the news to you, it’s confusing to decide what to do, what NOT to do, how to prepare, and the implications of your doing or not doing certain things.
Holidays can be difficult for separated parents. Everyone wants to spend time with their children, especially during the holidays. Deciding on a schedule that works best for your children can be especially difficult when there are extended family events to plan around and when one or both of you want to travel.